Situation Example: Royston and Hanna had broken up 1 month ago.
However, Royston missed Hanna a lot and thought of getting back together
with her again. So he set up a little lunch date with Hanna. As the
lunch date went better than expected, Royston decided to take the date a
little longer than the 20 minutes date as planned. As the conversation
went on, Royston felt more and more optimistic about getting Hanna back
and finally expressed his desire to get back together with her. To his
disbelief and disappointment, Hanna rejected the idea without any deep
consideration. The great lunch date suddenly turned into an awkward
meeting for both and ended with a bitter goodbye. That lunch date left a
bad impression on Royston and Hanna would think twice before agreeing
to another one on one meeting with Royston again.
From the example above, this is a situation that we regard as premature reconciliation. Premature reconciliation usually ends with a failure in recapturing your love and ruins your one and only chance to get back with ex again.
The biggest mistake committed by Royston is overstaying for the lunch date. He should have stick with the original plan of 20 minutes or so for the date and ended the lunch date even if it went really well. Most people will not have the determination to end a date when it is going extremely well, so it may be a good idea to schedule something else after the date. This is to make sure that you leave before you have too much time together with your ex.
You must always keep in mind NOT to move forward too fast with your ex during your first date after your break up. You may not be spending much time with your ex, but most important you must relax and have a good time with your ex, leaving him/her wanting more and anticipating for her next date with you. If you are lucky enough, your ex may even ask for another date with you before you bid farewell.
Another common mistake committed by girls is sleeping with their ex too soon. Even if your dates with your ex are going really well, you should NOT sleep with him until you get a re-commitment from him. You seriously do NOT want to go back to bed with your ex until you are sure you are getting back together for good. An important fact about men is that they value what they work for and what are rare more. Thus, they will only commit to a woman who is valuable, special and rare to them. Sleeping with your ex after a date or two will only make you seems "easy" and "normal" for the guys.
When you are refusing to sleep with him when everything is going well, you will drive him crazy thinking about the reason for the your refusal. This will give you a psychological advantage over him as you suddenly become a mystery to him and start gaining more respect from him, which can eventually lead to a true reconciliation and commitment in the relationship. If he still insists on an answer for not sleeping with him, simply tell him that you are done with casual sex. This incredible answer shows him that you make that decision to uphold your value, not because of him.
Premature reconciliation will always be the ultimate disaster in your path of getting back your ex. The reason is that reconciliation from a break up is like a second chance for your relationship with your ex. Therefore, you must learn to do it the correct way in order to increase your success rate in getting back your ex and happiness in your life.
From the example above, this is a situation that we regard as premature reconciliation. Premature reconciliation usually ends with a failure in recapturing your love and ruins your one and only chance to get back with ex again.
The biggest mistake committed by Royston is overstaying for the lunch date. He should have stick with the original plan of 20 minutes or so for the date and ended the lunch date even if it went really well. Most people will not have the determination to end a date when it is going extremely well, so it may be a good idea to schedule something else after the date. This is to make sure that you leave before you have too much time together with your ex.
You must always keep in mind NOT to move forward too fast with your ex during your first date after your break up. You may not be spending much time with your ex, but most important you must relax and have a good time with your ex, leaving him/her wanting more and anticipating for her next date with you. If you are lucky enough, your ex may even ask for another date with you before you bid farewell.
Another common mistake committed by girls is sleeping with their ex too soon. Even if your dates with your ex are going really well, you should NOT sleep with him until you get a re-commitment from him. You seriously do NOT want to go back to bed with your ex until you are sure you are getting back together for good. An important fact about men is that they value what they work for and what are rare more. Thus, they will only commit to a woman who is valuable, special and rare to them. Sleeping with your ex after a date or two will only make you seems "easy" and "normal" for the guys.
When you are refusing to sleep with him when everything is going well, you will drive him crazy thinking about the reason for the your refusal. This will give you a psychological advantage over him as you suddenly become a mystery to him and start gaining more respect from him, which can eventually lead to a true reconciliation and commitment in the relationship. If he still insists on an answer for not sleeping with him, simply tell him that you are done with casual sex. This incredible answer shows him that you make that decision to uphold your value, not because of him.
Premature reconciliation will always be the ultimate disaster in your path of getting back your ex. The reason is that reconciliation from a break up is like a second chance for your relationship with your ex. Therefore, you must learn to do it the correct way in order to increase your success rate in getting back your ex and happiness in your life.
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