A relationship is a serious business, not just for you but also the person you are entering it with. This is because both of your emotions, and indeed persons will be invested in the venture. As such, a relationship should not be entered into casually or selfishly.
Understandably, there are moments when you are truly vulnerable and desire to be in a relationship but heed my advice: that’s when you should not date anyone. When specifically and why, you ask? Sit tight and read on.
•After a breakup
It is a fallacy peddled around that when you are just recovering from a bad breakup or want to get over a guy, the remedy is to get back in there and find a man that will help you get back on track. That is just wrong because you are practically using the poor guy. You may think that lots of people do it and so it is not such a big deal but that they do it does not make it right. After a breakup, you need time to recuperate and learn how to be on your own once again.
It is a fallacy peddled around that when you are just recovering from a bad breakup or want to get over a guy, the remedy is to get back in there and find a man that will help you get back on track. That is just wrong because you are practically using the poor guy. You may think that lots of people do it and so it is not such a big deal but that they do it does not make it right. After a breakup, you need time to recuperate and learn how to be on your own once again.
•When lonely/sad
Before you date, make sure you are comfortable in your own skin so that you can be a value to another person, rather than deadweight. When you are scared of being alone or need someone to cheer you up is not when you need a boyfriend. He’s neither a therapist nor a clown. When are you leeching off him, who is going to help him when he is down? Don’t be selfish.
Before you date, make sure you are comfortable in your own skin so that you can be a value to another person, rather than deadweight. When you are scared of being alone or need someone to cheer you up is not when you need a boyfriend. He’s neither a therapist nor a clown. When are you leeching off him, who is going to help him when he is down? Don’t be selfish.
•When pressured
Oh boy! Lots of us are guilty but dating because your friends are or your family thinks you should is a terrible idea. In the end, you would not give your all to the relationship because you are doing it for others and not yourself.
Oh boy! Lots of us are guilty but dating because your friends are or your family thinks you should is a terrible idea. In the end, you would not give your all to the relationship because you are doing it for others and not yourself.
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