I often tell people that relationships are like transactions. When you go to the market, you exchange a commodity for some value (money) and so everyone goes home happy. In the same way, in a relationship, no one should feel slighted, taken advantage of or better than the other.
A friend of mine was once involved in a relationship for all the wrong reasons. I say her reasons were wrong because it was all base on pity. He had always liked and had been asking her out for like forever. After a while, she could not take it anymore. She began rationalizing why she ought to date him: he was simple, caring, attentive, quiet and an overall nice guy. She didn’t feel butterflies in her belly around him but they could at least maintain a decent conversation for a while. She said ‘yes’, believing it was not such a bad idea not to date him since he wasn’t a bad guy.
Now, you should understand why I said the relationship was wrong. It goes without saying that the relationship did not last long and that brings me to my point. Going into a relationship with a guy you know you are no crazy about is a bad idea. It is even worse when you date him as a favor to improve his image or out of pity.
What right do you have to do that? Get off your high horse and stop giving out hand-outs. You would do him a greater service when you say ‘no’ and stand by it, no matter how he insists and no matter how heartless you seem. It is best for both of you if you date a person because you genuinely like the person, else you are setting each other up for confusion and heartache.
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